I’m wondering:
Do Christian movie makers have sons?
If they do, do they want them to watch their movies with
pure thoughts? Do they care if the women characters sometimes display as much
sex appeal as they do God-appeal?
My daughters and I recently watched a Christian-themed
production that I’m not sure I want my son to see. Yes, he is an adolescent and
just learning how to fight this battle that all good men must, but should I let
him sit with me and knowingly put something before him that will steer his
thoughts in a direction I am trying to help him overcome?
I don’t like to be critical. I like to be positive. As a
writer, I want to applaud the artistic efforts being put forth to make these
Christian-themed movies. And as a Christian, I want to support the lifting up
of righteous viewpoints in the Hollywood realm. I don’t want to be an angry
conservative. I don’t think Jesus was. I don’t want to be known as the woman
who is always “riding a hobby horse” about dress, as they used to say. But I can’t “not” say something about this. This
is about the men in my life and I care about that.
And somewhere a woman needs to raise her voice and say to
this new Christian movie industry “This isn’t okay; you need to clean this up
just a bit more. You can’t mix sex appeal with Christ appeal.”
Maybe they don’t think it is sex appeal. Maybe it’s unintentional;
maybe it hasn’t even entered their minds. Maybe to them it’s just the way women
dress today. But, if they’re men, and many movie directors are, then they can’t
be totally unaware.
Maybe it is the wardrobe personnel, which tends to be women,
who push the line with the clothing used on the set. After all, let’s be
honest. It is somewhat difficult to find trendy, attractive clothing that is
also not sensually appealing. Maybe
these women think nothing of this since most
of us tend not to be fully aware of the power of our bodies and of how little
it takes to push a man’s impulses to the temptation zone.
Perhaps it is simply that these directors, men or women, are
so accustomed to working in a field where total onscreen nudity is accepted and
rampant sensuality is flaunted that “tame” immodesty doesn’t even register on
their alarm status.
But tell me, does the
degree of sex appeal matter if the outcome is the same? If a man is enticed
to lust by a short skirt, does it matter that she isn’t bare to the waist? Does the large transgression mean that the smaller
one isn’t significant?
Perhaps it is my environment that makes me more conscious of
this matter. Are men from “conservative” environments more aware of low
necklines, high hemlines and tight contours than men in environments where this
is the norm? In other words, can one become immune to a certain kind of stimulus? Or are
men everywhere, of every ethnicity and background, every social and
intellectual status, affected the same way by the power of female beauty and
the degree to which it is uncovered before them? Men readers, I really would
like to hear your voices here.
If they are, then we need to quit playing games.
Ultimately, this is the destiny of souls we are talking
about.
Yes, it’s that serious.
There probably isn’t a man breathing who hasn’t given in to
the temptation to lust at some time. And
yes, God knows the onslaught of hormonal and visual tides men must brave every
day. And yes, He forgives and offers grace. And no, women are not responsible
for a man’s unbridled appetites.
But. . . .
What if it is my son who is learning to overcome manly
temptations and you are the one who wore the short skirt?
What if it is my husband who has to spend several minutes
focusing on Scripture and taking his thoughts captive and you are the one whose
camisole wasn’t high enough to conceal cleavage that should be your husband’s
personal privilege?
Is it okay for you to throw your body in the way of my men’s
spiritual progress?
Is it all right for you to make them figuratively cover
their eyes and still try to relate to you as a sister in Christ?
Is it all right for you to be an enticer?
If my husband is on a diet, is it okay for me to bake his
favorite dessert and put it on a plate in front of him? No. So is it okay for
you to display your body and thus invite him to sin? I think not.
True, the action will be his choice, but do you care so
little about me and my marriage that you are determined to exercise your “right”
to wear whatever you want and let everybody else deal with it? If a man discards his diet and eats cake, it
is not necessarily sin; but if he discards his integrity and surveys you, it
most certainly is sin.
If sexual lust is a universal temptation, then every
Christian, regardless of gender or spiritual maturity, denomination or theological
classification, wants to triumph over it through Christ. Therefore,
considerations of dress are not an issue of “conservative” or “liberal” but
totally within the realm of what enables all of us to advance in
Christlikeness. Oh, how I wish that we could return to the rightness of the
premise of this discussion and not be distracted by the ecclesiastical politics
which always surround it.
Will the whole world read these words and suddenly agree to
help us all on to greater godliness? No, but I hope those of us who call
ourselves by His name will care deeply about glorifying Gods in our bodies
which belong to Him. Ultimately, this matter of avoiding sensuality in dress is
for Christians to discuss and model before a pagan world. They must come to
Christ first and foremost; He will deal with the surrounding issues. But often the
problem is that after sinners in our culture come to Christ, they are not prompted
to think differently in this area because many of us look the same as they do,
many Christian women give less thought than they should to the sex appeal they
are (maybe innocently) displaying. So
these baby Christians read God’s Word and see it through the template of the older
Christians they know and therefore think little should be changed.
This should not be.
My husband says “If my faith is not changing me, it is not
saving me.” New life in Christ always promotes change in me. As I am conformed
to His image, I am doing all I can to let Him be seen in me. And that is difficult
to accomplish if my body is prominently displayed in appealing ways.
I don’t have the answers. But He does. If we put aside our peevishness
and seek His counsel, He will show us. If
we have honest discussions with the men in our lives, they will tell us those
things that they are acutely aware of in our dress that we think nothing of. If we sincerely set our hearts to know and
follow Christ and support our brothers and sisters in His family, then we can
help each other on to that great city where we will see Him and enjoy Him
forever. That is the goal of all this, right?
